For the last three months, Computerguy’s office has asked them to work at least two Saturdays a month. This doesn’t seem like that much. It’s only 1/4 of their days off. Mostly it’s been okay. But today, the last one (for now, anyway), it feels unbearable. I don’t want him to go to work. And he’s feeling the same way. He has gotten angrier and angrier as the months have gone on. He’s exhausted; he’s not doing good work; he misses time with the kids; between Saturdays at work and Sundays at church, he’s not getting any home projects done; and we’ve had to pick Saturdays around other events, so we’re not even just home kicking it on the off Saturdays.
I keep saying, we’re glad he has a job, a good job with a good salary and benefits, and if this is what it takes, so be it. And that’s still true. I’ve tried to be really supportive with him because he’s feeling it too much already; he doesn’t need a whiny, nagging wife. But somehow, today, I just don’t feel like I can do it. But, I will, and 5:00 will come, and it’ll be over. For now. And the next two weeks are easy. He has Monday off (I know, right!?!); Bubble has preschool T/W/Th, and then I’m going to take the kids to Arizona and scurry back and get ready for a Graduation Partay (June 12, 12:30-4:30–open house; everyone’s invited) and the folks will bring the kids back on Monday or so and be here through the graduation and the weekend and it’ll be fun and lively and all that good stuff.
And then, and here’s the irony or the kicker or something, Computerguy will lose vacation and comp days if he doesn’t use them by July 1st, so he’s planning to take days off in June. We haven’t figured out exactly when or what we will do; I think he should take some staycation days and work on stuff he never gets to do here (not in a “Honey Do” kind of way, but because he will feel better about life if he can do home projects), but we’ll see. And he’s not the only one in his office in that situation.
I think situational irony is the best term for the scenario.
And just writing it down makes me feel better.